After a while, I tried to get along with my heart broken and moving on. And being sick for couple months that required me to have some bed rest was completely boring. So I tried a new thing to ease my broken heart a little bit with trying a dating site.
Here’s the story…
Because I’m completely new for this dating site thing, I tried the local dating site for starting up, a few day logged in I felt not really interested enough, just got messages from unexpected members, once got hitch by a cute french guy (again) he just interested in cyber sex, end of words, NO! I shut down my membership.
Once got failed, I moved on to another site, this one, the international dating site. there’s not much I got here, mostly old man or just men look for cyber sex experience and mostly SCAM!.
Yeah, I got scammed, and for me, its hideous, not just becoz he got the wrong person to be scammed, but also becoz he is too idiot and too ugly to scammed me.
It was started with one guy, dropped me message on my inbox in that dating sites, asked for chat on my personal IM. Of course coz I dont know anything about dating site, and I dont know what do’s and dont’s, I agreed and give him my personal IM so we can chat outside the dating site. Later on, we got online on IM and talk a little bit, he quite nice and I told him a little about my failed past relationship and about my health.BAM! he know I’m in vulnerable condition and he was just so welcome with that (red flag), I underline this, if someone try to fit in on your vulnerable condition, that person might have some motives, one thing he doesnt know, I might vulnerable at the moment, but it doesnt make me stupid, it just makes me become girlzillaa ggrrr!!
The story going on, we chatted regularly, within few days he ask my phone number, I gave him without any doubt, bcoz I work in media and its not a new thing to give contact to new people I meet but since I have the sense of CSI (everyone can be a suspect before the case closed hehe), I started to make a little investigation since the day we talked. Then I found many many red flags and this is how I find out about scammer.
From the first day we talked on IM, there’s seem normal, then we exchanged photos and I was just surprised by how he expressed how much he adored me, I mean, I know I’m cute, but come on, it just photos. But in the other hand, when I saw his pics, I just, oh okay, he’s not my type actually, and his face is not much flattering, my exes much much lots handsome than this, but I just think if he’s a good guy, why wouldnt I take a shot, at least he has a good heart (but I’m wrong, sigh).
And days by days gone through with his regular chat and phone calls and its so amazing how fast he express his love to me and how my name changed become babe and sweety, seriously, I hate that. And being called sweety just remind me of one of the diapers brand here. So instead of get flattered by how he treated me (he said he would do anything for me, he accepted me the way I am, he will love me forever and ever and he head over heels in love with me and cannot live without me) I get annoyed and curios and dig deeper about what’s going on here. Well, he dont know me at all, and I think he’s on drugs saying all of that. That’s another red flag. I know myself well and I realize that I’m a difficult person, someone who said that he loves me is definitely not someone who just knew me at a glance or just within few calls for few days, my (ex)french man definitely said, he loved a crazy girl, yea, he said I’m psycho, but he loved me (was) after what we’ve been through together for years not becoz how beautiful I am, thats a crap!
However, I get along with his lame game, along with my investigation. I can easily read his pattern, but I just play along just to get a good time to catch and shoot! After almost 2 month with regular calls and IM and how much he in love with me, he decided to come to visit me, and here comes the drama that I’ve been waiting for.
After a week he spent in Canada for business training (he said he’s from London but originally from Scotland ), suddenly he should fly to Guyana for making final report. It makes me wonder, what kind of business course that only takes a week and then required to fly to another unfamiliar country just to make a final report, another red flag. And by the way, from where he claims he come from, he doesnt sound so Englishman nor Scottish, I barely recall it, coz he sound much mumbling when he talks.
I catch small indication that showed he’s a scammer before, first, he asked about my address, when I asked what for, he said he wants to send me a valentine card. But then I argued coz he said he was going to visit me, so what valentine’s card for?? he said, just in case. Ok, but when I warned him dont send me any gift coz I dont want to receive any gift from stranger or anyone I havent met before, he surprisingly offended. WHY? I dont want to received any gift, is that wrong? why offended? red flag.
And then, when he was in Canada he asked me to open a Paypal account coz he couldnt access his. I asked him many questions about that, what is paypal? (seriously I didnt know until I googled it), why I should open one for him? what he wants from me doing that? he said someone was going to transfer him something, I asked, who? and what for? finally he gave up coz I shut him up with reason I have no computer and the only access I have at work just internal web.Red flag.
And then the big hit was, when the day he suppose to be come here, one day earlier, he sent me a very impressive letter. He said on his letter that I have to do something before he landed there, and that thing I should do was, I had to receive a money transfer on behalf of him, he cant receive it under his account coz his ex wife put him in a huge debt and runaway with another man and left the debt under his obligation, and if he received the money under his account the government of England will take the money to clear his debt automatically (is that sound like a moron? dumbest thing I’ve ever heard). The reason why he want me to receive his money that someone send him is pure becoz he love and trust me, and he want me to do the same, love and trust him so I have to do what he asked me to. One problem here, I never trust someone I never see or touch, so this is not just red flag for me, but THIS MEANS WAR, dude!
Frankly, being scammed that way like I resumed above not making me upset becoz of purely being scammed, but that idiotic pattern of scammed that he tried to work on me really really insult my intelligence. First of all, I might be an Asian, I’m proud to be Asian, and my country where I come from, born and raised, might be from the category of third world country, but he should noted too that my beloved country also known as one of the biggest corrupt country in the world, so your small game is so lame, sir. Second of all, maybe I’m at my vulnerable stage at the moment, but seriously, at my age, who will fall for a a guy just from photos, some routine of phone calls and being called babe and sweety on IM? maybe if I still in junior high and he has a face of Ryan Gosling on photos, it would be possible, but I’m too old for that, it required some good sex and series of vacation in Bali to make a vulnerable girl like me to fall for him, lame tricks. And last but not least, he said he trusted and loved me thats why he wanted me to receive his money on behalf of him. That’s the dumbest thing ever. From many guys I’ve dated, none of them, trusted their credit card in my hand before I become officially their wife, so how could a completely stranger whom never see me or touch me before claimed that he trusted me to receive his funds??. Err, have u ever heard about money laundering, sir?
Well, from this experience, I found out that there are still many individuals trying to take advantage of other’s vulnerability. What a shame! I hope he get his karma, what goes around, comes around.. thats rule!